Pumpkin is not even eleven months old yet and I can say with complete certainty that there is no way that she will change in any other year of her life as much as she has the first year. In just eleven months she has grown from a tiny little peanut who slept all day and couldn’t hold up her head into a strong-willed, babbling, walking, observant, funny, playful little person who knows what she wants, knows who her parents are, waves and claps for everybody, and moves furniture around. Yes, my daughter is fanatical about furniture placement. She apparently decided that she didn’t like the location of the (large, heavy, wooden) toy chest in her playroom, so she slid it across the room and turned it 180 degrees. I’ve seen her at daycare sliding chairs across the room. Just the other day when I dropped her off she started in with the chairs and one of the teachers said “there she goes, rearranging the furniture again.” Last week I noticed that her crib at daycare was in a different location, and none of the others had moved. I didn’t even bother to ask what had happened. Knowing Pumpkin, she probably felt there was a problem in one of the adjacent cribs (i.e. a snoring baby, somebody who tried to take her snack….that sort of thing) and at the first opportunity she dragged her crib a few feet away to prove a point. Who knew eleven months ago that she would be doing all these things?? And who knew I’d be walking around the house, pushing on all of our furniture to see how heavy it is to make sure we don’t have to worry about Pumpkin rearranging our living room?
Pumpkin goes to daycare two days a week and the other day when I picked her up one of the teacher’s aides was changing her diaper. I asked if she squirms around on the table when they change her. She said no, and I commented “that’s strange – I had to move her changing pad from the top of the dresser to the floor because she moves around so much when I change her.” The head teacher heard the conversation and said “well they all have home behavior and then there’s school behavior and often they’re different.” Hmm… so why exactly then is she more difficult to handle with me? Is it because she sees the daycare teachers more as authority figures because she doesn’t know them as well? Or because she knows I love her unconditionally so it’s her chance to express herself? Or is it because she knows we have fun together and she thinks that I’ll think it’s funny if she crawls off at lightening speed before I can put a diaper back on her? (grrrr… it was funny the first time but not so much now) I’ll bet she doesn’t bite them either. (They used to feel like sweet kisses to me but then she grew teeth :)). And she probably doesn’t try to pull their hair. Gosh, what am I doing wrong? Well at least I know that her most amazing, loving hugs are reserved for mommy and daddy, so I guess I can live with the rest.