Last week I told Pumpkin that she was a “lucky ducky,” and she was in a fun mood and kept saying, “no, lucky bucky.” The following day we were saying a prayer before dinner and daddy said something about how lucky we are for all that we have. Pumpkin said, “mommy’s a lucky bucky, daddy’s a lucky bucky, we’re all lucky buckies!”
A few weeks ago we were in the car on our way to a family get-together and Pumpkin was in her car seat next to her cousin Alex. Pumpkin had taken off her socks and shoes as usual and so Alex was doing “this little piggy….” with one of her feet. When she finished, Pumpkin grabbed her other foot and said, “this little piggy went to Target, this little Piggy went to Trader Joe’s …”
Daddy and I have discussed from time to time that Pumpkin does not seem to be overly affectionate. It’s not an “issue,” per se, it’s just that it would sort of be nice to get a willing hug or “I love you” at least on a sort of regular basis. It’s not that she doesn’t ever return a hug or kiss, but it does seem to us that more often than not she tries to resist it. I figure it must be related to the toddler-wants-to-be-in-control instincts that can make the “terrible two’s” such a challenging time for all. When Pumpkin does return affection, it usually seems to be on her own terms, which I guess is really better anyway (or so I have been telling myself). But – when she does – OMG – it’s so awesome. On my birthday last fall I was tucking her in and she said, “happy birthday, mommy. I love you, mommy.” It was the highlight of my day. A few weeks ago, out of the blue, she put her hands over her chest and said to me, “I love you in my heart.” It was so sweet and so precious, her next question was, “why are you crying mommy?” I love you so much, Pumpkin. And if you’re reading this some day, I hope that when you’re beyond these early years, you will always know that your hugs and “I love you’s” will always be the most special thing to me – whether you decide to give them on special occasions or every day. XO
On a recent visit with Pumpkin’s grandmother, “Mimi,” we drove the car past the scene of an accident where there were several fire engines and ambulances. Mimi said, “holy cow!” and Pumpkin looked all around and said, “where’s the cow?” She heard us all laughing and it must have registered in her mind that it was funny because a few more times that weekend she looked around with a big smile on her face and asked, “where’s the cow?” 🙂 It’s funny how many expressions we use without thinking about the actual meaning of the words until there’s a two year old listening.
Now I understand the legitimacy of what used to sound like an excuse…you know, the line from friends that goes something like this: “I’m so sorry I haven’t been in touch.. I feel like I never have a free moment now that Junior is two.” Well, Pumpkin is two now, and we have officially joined that club. Let’s put it this way…. one evening a few weeks ago I was just sitting at the kitchen table, taking a break from it all for a minute. Pumpkin walked over and asked, “what are you doing, mommy?” I said, “I’m just relaxing,” to which she replied with a confused look on her face, “why are you relaxing, mommy?” Eeegads.